What Do Couples Say About Oral Sex
A writer for the New York Magazine (NYMAG.COM) contacted me and asked if I would be interested in contributing to an article on what couples think about oral sex. The article was being written in response to a recent surfacing of an old radio interview of DJ Khaled on the topic of oral sex.
In the interview, DJ Khaled shared his somewhat lopsided views on oral sex- he never goes down on women but the same rules don't apply to women! His disclosure was met with a very strong response from Dwayne The Rock Johnson who shared his pride in being able to master all ways of pleasing his partners. Two very famous men with polar opposite views on a topic that continues to be somewhat of a taboo issue, especially among straight couples.
In my sex therapy practice, the response to my questions about oral sex is either met with excitement from both partners or a mix of hesitation & reluctance to talk about it.
On one hand, I see couples that are very much into oral sex and can't imagine having to go without it. They either start their lovemaking with oral sex or end it. Some engage in it when they are too tired for intercourse, they are in a rush or simply to change things up.
On the other hand are couples where one partner is usually very much into receiving and giving oral sex and the other partner is not so excited. There are a lot of reasons for the lackluster response to oral sex- myths about hygiene, smell & taste especially for women who don't want their partners to go down on them; societal & cultural stereotypes most relevant among men who consider oral sex as something performed exclusively by women and their own role is limited to only being a recipient of the pleasure. Not knowing enough about one's sexual anatomy and influence of porn on expectations about oral sex are other driving factors.
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Written by: Nagma V. Clark, Ph.D., L.P.C.C. specializing in sex therapy, couples therapy & marriage counseling, premarital counseling, individual relationship therapy & LGBTQQI couples counseling at Tri-Valley Relationship Therapy, Inc. in the East Bay, in Dublin & Oakland.
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